A Letter To My Friend

Hi,


Sorry, just see your email now. First of all, let me assure you that it is ok to be emotional and upset because we are all human, as long as you walk away without doing or saying anything that will hurt someone, which you will regret.

In the perfect world, everyone gets along well. We are blessed with the ability to think, to decide, to choose, but, because we are different, sometimes, the personality just crash. Although we have our mind, I think we are no different with animals at some aspects. When we feel that we are attacked, we defend fiercefully. That is the nature. In this case, your mother in law means no harm, unfortunately, she misses the signal that you need her to step back.

I love reading books of self improvement or some quotes from smart and successful people. Not that I practise them, but just a reminder to myself of what others have done right to be up there. Just, always practise what I say rather than what I do, because I am pretty slacked in practising what is right.

Thanks for trusting me enough to tell me your problems. I don't see the problem as solely bossy mother in law, unreasonable boss and rude interviewer. I do see you struggle with expressing yourself, losing confidence and being confused about life. We do not cry for no reason, and sometimes it relates to something deep down and not just the problem that we thought we are dealing with.

1. Pick a day, go to some where quiet, and ask yourself when is the last time you laugh from your heart. Then write down the list of things that you really want to do that will really cheer you up.

2. Every week, make a plan to do something from the list. If it means having some quiet time to read a book, then go to the library for 1-2 hours. Quiet time and only your time.

3. Have a look at the course link (Listen to your heart and success will follow) I sent. If you really sit down and go through the course, I do think it will be a good start that give you a better idea on what you are looking for in life/work and how to deal with it.

There are a few of things I learn in life:

- Things always happen for a reason.

- Whatever we experience in life is a lesson, and it will not go away until we learn it.

- We need to know what is our needs (not want). If we know our needs, we can express ourselves better and then start communicating with people around us.

Good night and have a sweet dream

Poem - To Let Go

I come across this website today, http://www.great-inspirational-quotes.com/letting-go.html  .  There are many interesting quotes and I love this poem of Letting Go that I would like to share.

Letting Go
Author Unknown

To let go doesn't mean to stop caring;


It means I can't do it for someone else.

To let go is not to cut myself off...

It's the realization that I can't control another...

To let go is not to enable,

but to allow learning from natural consequences.

To let go is to admit powerlessness,

which means the outcome is not in my hands.

To let go is not to try and change or blame another,

I can only change myself.

To let go is not to care for, but to care about.

To let go is not to fix, but to be supportive.

To let go is not to judge,

but to allow another to be a human being.

To let go is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes,

but to allow others to affect their own outcomes.

To let go is not to be protective,

It is to permit another to face reality.

To let go is not to deny, but to accept.

To let go is not to nag, scold, or argue,

but to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.

To let go is not to adjust everything to my desires,

but to take each day as it comes and cherish the moment.

To let go is not to criticize and regulate anyone,

but to try to become what I dream I can be.

To let go is not to regret the past,

but to grow and live for the future.

To let go is to fear less and love more.

Phillip Island - Animal

Phillip Island

Photos from Phillip Island, Victoria

Cockington Green Gardens - Canberra

I just have a short trip to Canberra.  My favourite place is Cockington Green Gardens, which is is 15km north of the city on Gold Creek Road, at Gold Creek Village, 10 minutes from Canberra city.

It has beautifully landscaped gardens with fantastic miniature buildings and scenes, which are exact replicas of real places at sizes ranging from 1/12th right down to 1/100th of the original size. 

Bullied gay teen - please hang on

A very moving speech by a city councilman in Forth Worth, Texas, pleading gay teens not to commit suicide... and ....please live long enough to create beautiful memories of their own.

Online: Burns' video on YouTube: http://bit.ly/bRTyvH


It is a very touching speech and ............ YES, I cannot agree more that bullying at school must stop.  It should be a place that children and teens feel safe to go everyday, learning and be loved.

It is painful for families who lose their love ones.  I wonder how the bully can live their lives thinking the pain that they have caused. 
We cannot deny the fact that some bullies are young, and they may not have thought the words they used, action that they took, can be so Cruel, Painful, Unbearable.... and in the end... cause someone to think that it is better to leave the world.
It is very sad that we need someone to lose their life and many enough, before we all realise that "No, it is not ok.".

For teens who happens to join the bully and read this post.  
- No, you don't need to be one of them to be popular at school.
- No, you don't need to be one of them to feel strong and be liked.
- Yes, we may not agree or understand what we see, especially things that are different to values we were taught since young, but you have no rights to hurt anyone intentionally.  We need to keep an open mind.
- No one in this world is exactly the same.  Even if you find him/her, I bet there is something you don't like/agree.

We are different in every way and please open your mind and heart to accept the fact that We Are Different and It is OK.

A day with big fat farm animals - farm market